Do you remember when your little girl wanted to be just like her Mommy? I don’t. I have been a member of middle-age long enough that all I can think about is trying to be like my daughters. Mothers seek approval too. “Fifty is the new thirty,” became my mantra during the year I helped Kate plan her wedding.
I recently read an article titled, “Top 10 Pre – Wedding Procedures”. Here we go in no particular order:
Breast Augmentation (boob job)
Rhinoplasty (nose job)
Liposuction (removal of excess fat)
Eye Rejuvenation (correction of sagging eyelid skin…this is why you find your mascara under your eye brow at the end of the day.)
Mini Tummy Tuck (removal of excess fat from around the waist)
Restylane (injectible fill to puff out the wrinkles)
Mini Face Lift, Botox, Tattoo Removal, Smile Makeover…all self explanatory.
Notice anything? Are they talking about the Bride here? I don’t think so. Common sense tells me that it’s us Mothers paying for, and suffering through, most of these Pre-Wedding Procedures. Can you imagine a 20 or 30 year old girl needing Eye Rejuvenation? Or Restylane? Mini Face Lift?
OK…I suspect a majority of the Boob Jobs…but not all…and 99% of the Tattoo Removals are performed on the Bride. But that’s about it!
When it was my turn to be a MOB, I discovered way too late, that it was way too late, to attempt any of the above options to make me look younger. I had not allowed myself time to factor in healing, and, heaven forbid, corrective surgery appointments to address any unforeseen reactions or “oops” on the first attempt. Fortunately, I had learned from suffering through bad hairdos that a drastic change before a significant event can lead to “Oh good heavens, what was I thinking?”
My solution for accommodating this new challenge placed on the Mother of the Bride is this. I believe that any young man who dates our daughters with the intention of proposing marriage, give us Mothers a 6 month window of notice so that we can get to work on updating our homes (if necessary) and ourselves for sure.




Marisa Baratelli