Wedding Photography Packages ~ Compare Apples to Apples

Share these words of advice from MOB and wedding photographer Linda Stillerman Silvestri owner of Tower Photography with your Bride-to-Be.

When you start to look around for photographers make sure you know what you are getting and that you are comparing prices accurately. I am a huge fan of “happily ever after” and don’t want any bride to cry over her choice of photographer.

Some photographers offer “packages” of assorted photo sizes and set numbers of each. One photographer I know offers 3 8X10’s in a frame for Parents. I don’t know about you, but I certainly don’t want 3 photos in a frame. I prefer to have them in different rooms. Could I buy the photos individually? Sure, for a huge mark-up. Most people don’t want these packages, they prefer to buy what they want and need. These photographers will give you packages to choose from, but rarely will they fill your needs.

Some photographers will share copyright with you and give you all the images on a disc. Make sure they will at least do some correction on them (straightening, cropping, etc.). The disc is useless if you don’t know how to do this yourself. I generally offer to do fine tuning on their top 24 choices. Many photographers offer this as their only service. In other words you get what you want printed where ever you want. A word of caution here however; places that print in one hour (discount stores) don’t maintain their printers like a professional place would. I use a place called The Photo Place (http://photoplaceonline.com/about-thephotoplace.html).You can order your prints for what I pay, they will mail them to you and they will look fabulous! Tell them I sent you. Expect to pay a little more for the disc if you want it as an add-on to your package. After all, the photographer won’t make money if he gives you the disc.

Ask how many photographers will cover your wedding. Ask for it in writing. I charge less for smaller weddings where I may only bring an assistant. I charge more for larger weddings where I pay for another photographer to work with me. If they say their assistant will be there, make sure you ask what they will be doing. I have one assistant who carries my stuff, and another who shoots along side of me duplicating (pretty much) what I do. A second photographer will be just that: a whole other perspective on your images and a different style. I tend to shoot soft and romantic. My partner likes edgier stuff. Together we make fabulous images to choose from!

Albums… are you going to leave this on your coffee table forever and ever? Chances are not. Why in heaven’s name would you spend thousands for an Italian made album? Ask older brides where their albums are before you make this decision. Personally, I don’t care for fancy albums. Besides, I have a hard time choosing what images I want. I prefer all the images set to music of my choice in a DVD format. When I feel misty I pop in the DVD I made for our daughter and relive the entire day!

Beware of photographers who advertise a low price to “cover your entire wedding day”. They usually are counting on you buying packages or photos down the road at inflated prices. Just make sure you are comparing apples to apples and that you know exactly what you are getting.

 

 

Wedding Planning ~ Words of Wisdom from a Wedding Professional

Share these words of advice from MOB and wedding photographer Linda Stillerman Silvestri owner of  Tower Photography with your Bride-to-Be.

Some of the recent posts on the MOB FaceBook page have made me think about what works and what doesn’t work when it comes to photographs.  As a photographer I have just about seen it all.

Let’s start with the Bride and her veil.  It’s not your First Communion, therefore a shoulder length veil is a no-no.  If you want your photos to be stunning, go with a longer veil, preferably several layers of tulle.  If you have a cathedral train think about a cathedral length veil.  It is elegant and looks wonderful even when the breeze catches it.  If money is an issue (since veils can be costly), go with a pretty tiara, or even a cluster of silk flowers.  Go for the 40’s look with a veil covering just your eyes and gathered into jeweled comb. 

Brides, let’s talk about your hair.  If you wear your hair up, make sure it’s a style that will last the day.  There is nothing worse than curls around the face starting to droop half way through the ceremony.  If it’s a windy day, smooth your hair back.  The wind will whip your soft curls and make you look messy.

Bridesmaids… if the Bride asks you to wear pea soup green… suck it up and pay for the dress.  If she asks you to cover your tattoos… suck it up and do it for your friend.  If either of these scenarios goes against your religion or core beliefs, don’t accept the invitation to be a bridesmaid.  If money is an object, then decline the invitation to be in your friend’s wedding.  Please don’t stress the bride out and criticize her choice of dresses, accessories or shoes.

Brides, please don’t allow everyone to pick their own gown style all in the same color.  I realize this has become a trend, but there are several reasons to NOT do this.  One is that your photos will look like a group of strangers have wandered into your celebration and they just happen to be wearing your favorite color.  The second reason is while you think they can pick a dress they will wear again, they won’t ever wear it again.  This is your day… not theirs.  My advice is to consider the body shapes of your attendants and pick something the majority will look good in.  Allowing them to wear all different dresses makes your wedding party look chaotic.

Short dresses?  Long dresses?  Who wears what?  The truth is that rarely is the “right” thing worn.  It has become a “whatever you want” rule.  Traditionally, short dresses are worn for day ceremonies and long is worn for evening ceremonies.  However, if the ceremony is held earlier in the day as opposed to right before the reception, then it has become acceptable to wear the gown for the ceremony.  If the Bride chooses a shorter dress, tea or cocktail length, then the hems should all be the same distance from the floor.  Again, rarely is this done.  Unfortunately, this makes for a very ragged procession and even worse looking photos in your album.

Mothers usually want to save money and just buy one dress for both the ceremony and reception regardless if the setting is formal or casual.  The mothers are not part of the wedding party and generally allow the formality of the events to dictate what they will wear.  Talk with the Bride and ask what her vision is.  Generally a compromise can be reached with everyone happy with the result.

No matter what you wear, a little compromise and open communication can make it a wonderful day for everyone involved.

Linda Stillerman Silvestri

www.towerphotography.info

Your Wedding Photos Begin with You

Guest contributor Linda Silvestri is a Mother of the Bride and owner of Tower Photography.

You have been dreaming about your wedding day since you were a little girl.  Now it’s almost here!  You want your photos to be fabulous so that you will always remember the day.  Here are some tips from your photographer to make sure those photos are everything you want them to be.

  • Meet with your photographer well in advance.  Ask him or her for a checklist to see what types of photos you can expect to be taken.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for specific poses.  Most of my fellow photographers appreciate your input.
  • Try to get rest the weeks leading up to the wedding.  Nothing is worse than a bride and her Mom with circles under their eyes.
  • Please please please have everyone cut back on tanning the week of the wedding!  While some light color may look healthy, a deep tan throws everything off.  If I have to set my lighting to be able to see your face, anyone who is not tanned turns into Casper the Ghost.
  • Please use waterproof make-up.  Most brides and their Moms get teary at some point and you don’t want your eyes looking like Alice Cooper.
  • Practice your make-up and hair before the wedding day.  You can use a little more make-up than usual; in fact some additional eye liner will make your eyes pop!  However, heavy liner will result in raccoon eyes that don’t photograph very well.
  • Drink lots of water leading up to the wedding day.  It will make your skin glow and reduce and tightness.
  • While a drink may help you relax, keep it at that.  Nothing is worse than a drunken bride at her own wedding.  Party limos may include free champagne and your attendants will love to toast you and relax after the ceremony.  Hopefully everyone will remember there will be more celebrating at the reception!
  • Surround yourself with “fun” people on your wedding day.  Your photographer will love working with your wedding party if they are fun and accept that the posing and photo opportunities are important to you.  If people hate to have their photo taken it makes it hard on everyone.
  • Please don’t stop us every 3 minutes to photograph you with everyone invited to your reception.  Most of the time those are photos that never get selected and you are wasting time posing when you can be having fun.  Your photographer should be on the lookout for chances to get a photo of you relaxed surrounded by your friends.

And finally; just relax and let us do the work.  You should have already met with your photographer, so they should know what photos are important to you.  At some point you just have to trust us!

As a photographer I am always looking for new things to offer my brides.  Currently I offer a DVD with all their photos set to music of their choice.  Plus, I have found that albums have somewhat fallen from favor as coffee table storybooks of your wedding day have become more popular.  Check out my website for more ideas.

Linda Silvestsri – Tower Photography

Here is a link to Linda’s Facebook page for Imagine with Linda Silvestri.  Stop by and say hi!

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Struthers-OH/Imagine-with-Linda-Silvestri/107435579280977?v=photos#!/pages/Struthers-OH/Imagine-with-Linda-Silvestri/107435579280977?v=wall&ajaxpipe=1&__a=3

Wedding Planning ~ Not all Wedding Videos are the same!

Not all wedding videos will look the same! Believe me; I learned this lesson the hard way. I could hardly wait to see my daughter’s wedding video & was bursting at the seams with excitement when I hurriedly popped it into the DVD. My tears began to flow but not from being overjoyed at seeing the video. My excitement had turned to complete & utter shock. Instead of seeing the cinematic video I had dreamed of for weeks, I rather found myself watching just a simple homemade wedding video that was set to music.

Looking back I have no one to blame but myself. This is the one area that I feel I scrimped on concerning my daughter’s wedding. While planning my daughter’s wedding I was approached by a family friend who claimed to do cinematic wedding videos. I should have known by the cheaper price that this could not be the type of video I was looking for. I asked a few simple questions & way too hastily took him up on his offer.

Oh, I thought I had asked all the right questions to ensure that I was going to get the video I dreamed of but looking back I see that I failed miserably in this area. I have always heard if it sounds too good to be true, then it probably is!

The questions I should have first asked were if I could speak to a few of his former customers. Word of mouth is always the best advertisement if a person is happy with their services or could also prove to be a word of warning if a customer were to be unhappy.

Another question I find myself wishing I had asked was to see a few of his wedding videos. This would also have shown me exactly what I would be investing in & what I would be receiving.

Other questions I should have asked if I had first done my homework would be will the video be filmed in high definition and wide screen? Will it be filmed in a cinematic style?

If you feel the video is important and if your goal is to have a professional cinematic video that captures all the beauty and emotion of the day then it is your job to ask questions so that you will know upfront what you will be getting. Another way to see what you will be getting is by visiting the videographer’s website. There you will find samples of their work & also testimonials from their customers.

Anyone can pick up a camera but remember this is a once in a lifetime event and it should be captured as such. Choosing a videographer is an extremely important decision and an investment in your daughter’s life that you both will want to share for many years to come. I would like to offer a few tips on choosing the right videographer for your needs so that you will not make the same mistake that I did. Before signing a contract make sure that you do your homework & know exactly what you will be getting!!

Kim’s Helpful Tips When Choosing a Videographer:

Experience & Knowledge: Your wedding day is a once in lifetime day & should be treated as such. You don’t want to hand the responsibility of capturing one of the most important days of your life to an amateur. Make sure they have lots of WEDDING experience & not some “fly by night videographer.”

View the Videographer’s Demo: It is so important to know    your videographer’s ability before hiring him or her.

  • Does the DVD’s layout suit your wants?
  • Do you like how the videographer edited the video?
  • Are there any apparent mistakes?
  • Does the audio/music sound clear?

Style: Each Videographer will have his or her own unique style.     Make sure that their style also suits your style & wants. Make sure to think about this as you are watching the sample DVD.

Equipment: Does the videographer use professional equipment or his own personal consumer equipment? Make sure to remember that you are hiring a professional and that their equipment should also be professional. Do a little research on what type of equipment your videographer will be using.

  • Cameras
  • Wireless Microphones
  •  Tripods
  • Fluid Head or Plastic

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     Kim Francis is author of Kim’s Korner and contributor to The MOB Blog.

Shout Out of Thanks!

Every so often we hear of a story that touches our hearts.  Always Sisters ~ Forever Friends is one of those memorable stories, and from so many angles.  The creativity and efforts of the O’Shea family friends and wedding vendors helped to turn a challenging situation, into a happy memory for two sisters miles apart.

Today’s blog is a shout out of thanks to those wedding vendors who made it all possible.  If your daughter is planning a wedding in the New Jersey or sounding areas, please suggest she consider looking into the wedding services of the following wonderful people.

Fred & Liz from The Channel Club, Monmouth Beach, NJ

Your wedding celebration will be a day you and your guests will remember for many years to come. The Channel Club, located in Monmouth Beach, NJ provides a breathtaking backdrop for this special day. With panoramic water views and their exclusive waterfront setting, this is the perfect site for your once in a lifetime celebration.

Channel Club Bridal Show Tues. October 12th
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Emily Schlipf and James Savas of Black Dog Photography, Hoboken, NJ

If you want to enjoy every minute of your wedding day, check out Black Dog’s “7 Amazing Secrets”… wonderful information for every bride and her mother.

Christopher Ingram, New Legends Video

Christopher and his staff produce fresh, cutting edge video that reflects every memorable moment of your important day.  

Marino of NJ’s Best DJ’s

NJ’s Best DJ’s provide professional, experienced DJ entertainers along with unparalleled customer service.

Wedding Photos: The "ah" Photo

Please welcome our newest member of the MOB Squad, Linda Silvestri. Linda offers The MOB Blog her feelings having been a Mother of the Bride, as well as her experience working in the wedding industry.

What is a perfect wedding photo?  Is it your daughter posing perfectly?  Is it the close-up of the happy couple when they are saying their vows?  The truth is that perfect photo is different for everyone.  Does a photographer know it when they see it?  Not always.  The truth is that perfect “ah” photo is the one that makes the bride and groom or their families mist up when they see it.  As a photographer my goal is to always hit at least some of those perfect moments.  As a MOB, it was the shot I took of our daughter as she left our home for the last time as a single woman.  It is in silhouette, you really can’t even see her face or the dress, but it’s the emotion of seeing her leave the home where she lived her whole life. 

Documentary style photography is very popular now and the trend is towards candid photos.  My advice to you is to ask for a combination of styles.  You will always want those formal poses to look back on.  Everyone is standing tall and looking spectacular.  Candid shots don’t photograph nearly as good as they sound.  Eyes are closed, mouths are open, and someone is always walking in front of you. 

When shooting a wedding I include the expected formals as well as a casual style.  What that means is that I will set up the moment and then look for the “ah” shot.  The bride and groom cutting the cake … check.  Ah, but she just licked the frosting off his cheek.  They are doing their first dance … check.  Ah, but look how his hand lingers at the small of her back.  The wedding party is trying to line up for a group shot … check.  Ah, but the newlyweds are sneaking in a sweet kiss.  See what I mean?

Do not hire anyone who says they will cover “everything”.  Their definition of that will vary from yours.  Make a list of people you want photos of and include the relatives that are special to you.  Ask someone to point out these people for the photographer.  Ask for a list of what they consider standard shots.  Don’t be afraid to ask questions.  Don’t be afraid to ask for specific shots.  This is a moment in time that can’t be done over.  Ask for a contract that spells out your expectations.  And later, when a certain photo makes you say, “Ah”, be glad you took my advice.

Here is a link to my Facebook page for Imagine with Linda Silvestri.  Stop by and say hi!

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Struthers-OH/Imagine-with-Linda-Silvestri/107435579280977?v=photos#!/pages/Struthers-OH/Imagine-with-Linda-Silvestri/107435579280977?v=wall&ajaxpipe=1&__a=3

Wedding Photos: One Shot to get it Right

 Never assume that because you have hired a wedding photographer, they intuitively know what photographs you will be looking for when the final images are uploaded for your review.  I did.  And as the Mother of the Bride, I was terribly disappointed.

In the photographer’s defense, I do remember being handed a very detailed sheet of possible photo groupings from family to friends.   All that was required was a simple check mark to indicate requested wedding photos.  I also remember handing this list to my Bride.  I honestly felt that the photographer knew who was paying the bill…The Mother of the Bride…so naturally, the photographer would focus on the Bride and her family.  NOT!

  •  I felt so proud walking down the church aisle escorted by my tall handsome son.  The picture we received of that moment was a head shot through the sea of guests .
  •  I loved my dress.  There was not one full length picture of me wearing that dress in the over 500 images.
  •  My very best friends, and college roommates, attended the wedding with their husbands.  They are not in one photo…formal or casual.   
  •  I would have loved a picture of just Katie and me.  Not to be found.
  •  Come to think of it, there is no posed picture of me with my husband.

In hindsight, I will accept some of the blame.  I did not take the time to think through what photos I would be looking for the day after the wedding.  I will be proactive the next time around. 

As the Mother of the Bride, be sure to make your list of wedding photos that will be important to you.  To help you get started, I have included a link to a great post by Project Wedding.   They have outlined a wonderful list of photo options broken down by events of the wedding day. It is a fabulous start to creating your wedding photo wish list.

Project Weddingwww.projectwedding.com/wedding-ideas/must-take-photos?utm_source=twitter